Get Help for Grief
In general life many people struggle when it comes to asking for help. But when it comes to loss it’s important to get help for grief. Having the help of a friend, coach or family member can assist with healing as you move through the grieving process.
Since grief and loss is unique to each of us, it is important to look for help that is best suited to your needs.
Moving Through Grief
Experiencing a sudden and major loss or change in your life usually does not allow you much time to plan or maintain any logical thought process. While there are certainly healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with this loss and dealing with, it can be hard to predict how you will manage.
Importance of Allowing Others to Help
No matter your usual personality, being able to reach out to those close to you during times of grief is critical. We are social creatures made to work through difficult times together the same way we celebrate happier things.
How we handle grief and loss is unique. Some people have no problem opening up to others and venting their feelings. This is a healthy way to move with grief, especially if you have friends and family who are able to listen without judgement.
Help for grief can help avoid being alone attempting to handle their grief on their own. Getting help allows you to avoid a harmful buildup of tension and emotion. And it can help you keep your self esteem intact when moving through grief and adjusting to your new normal.
Alone Time When Grieving
It is normal early on in the grieving process to want some time alone. Having some personal time to try to assemble the million thoughts racing through your mind is needed.
With this said self isolation is not all good. What you must avoid is letting your grief cause you to isolate. Being alone can exacerbate your pain. It can affect your mental wellness especially when keep everything in. Taking healthy time for yourself is important, But too much time alone can be detrimental to our health. But find ways to reach out and talk out your thoughts and feeling. And be sure to engage in self care for you mind, body and soul.
As hard as it can be to leave the confines of your own mind, grief is something that should be worked through in the company of close friends and family.
Why Is Asking for Help Hard
Reliving the Grief
If the above sounds like you, there are several possible reasons you are struggling to convey your feelings to someone else. It could be that vocalizing all the hurt and pain running through your mind makes it seem even more real. It is almost as if putting these thoughts out into the external world gives them more power.
Worry About Others
You may feel as if reaching out for help might cause your pain to be transferred to someone else, causing them to feel the way you do. Furthermore, you may be under the impression that asking someone to listen to your issues may make you feel like a burden.
If these reasons, or any more for that matter, are preventing you from reaching out to those close to you, try to discard this notion. You can be certain that the people in your life that love you, really love you, are more than willing to lend an ear.
Ask yourself this question; if someone you cared about was going through a difficult time, would you want to be there to care for them in any way you could? You most certainly would.
In order to go through the grieving process in a healthy way and make it through to the other side, you must not suppress your pain and sadness.
When allowed to linger in your mind, these emotions will do nothing but disable the healing process. Your mental health is every bit as important as your physical health.
If you had a broken bone or a serious disease, the thought of handling it on your own would never cross your mind. Mental issues should be treated with the same urgency.
You have most likely had to deal with grief at some point in your life. Maybe you are experiencing it right now. When a situation occurs that causes you grief, one of the most important things you can do is reach out to your inner circle.
Listening Therapy for Grief
There are times in life when you need someone to listen; without giving advice, validating our feelings, who tells us its okay to feel the way we feel. While grieving all I wanted was someone to talk, the ability to vent without suggestion. Trained talk coaches and listeners my sister Suzanne Price and Mother we there to hear me out. This is what I needed in my time of grief and moving through loss.
Other people may wish for suggestions, and get advice. If you choose this type of therapy then it is crucial to get the right coach or counsellor. One who is equipped to handle grief. My personal experience was one that was not good. While well meaning the goal to ‘fix’ my grief is not helpful.
In this effort it is possible that misdiagnosis occur especially when there is an overzealous ‘therapist when it comes to complicated grief. (This is strictly speaking from my personal experience). But I can happen and then it becomes a whole new rabbit hole of confusion and additional grief.
Concluding Reaching Out for Help When Grieving
Those closest to you are meant to provide a sense of comfort and fellowship. What you are feeling, have felt or will feel at some point is not an emotion unknown to those around you. Do yourself a favor and lean on these people.
